Friday, 27 February 2015

Confidence 101

Welcome back to my blog! (really sorry for the delayed post, I have been busy with revision again)

So, today I would like to discuss a major issue that is still common with young girls (i.e teenagers). Confidence. I know, a scary subject, but I have tips that are bound to work - they worked for me!

First of all, let me fill you in. Growing up I was a confident little girl, I loved to showcase my dance routines to my family and friends. I would sing regularly and freely and also making friends was not an obstacle. From what I believe, there was a traumatic event that I'm not going to go in to detail, all you need to know is that I was scarred. I refused to perform in front of anyone and making friends was a challenge. I would allow people to approach me and make an effort rather than trying myself. Regardless, I am still the girl who trusts too easily (which is a good thing at times).

You may be in the same position right now and thinking you are okay with everything and there may be some that really want to become more confident and open. I am telling you now, this will help you a lot in the future whether you are applying for a job or meeting new people.

Step 1: You need  to find something you love. This will allow you to put all you heart and soul into what you do. In my case, I loved dancing. I thought to myself that enough is enough. I picked up my feet and went to a dance club after school (in my school). Fortunately for me, my dance teacher already knew me. By joining or doing something you love, not only are you going to find others with the same interest, but you're also building your skills! This may be a giant leap... however, you have to start somewhere rather than constantly procrastinating and delaying. Just don't think about it and just do it.

I know, you're thinking this is easier said than done. I am living proof. You have to eventually let your walls down and convince yourself. One thing I found myself doing a lot was evaluating what others do. Think about how they started... similar to your situation right? So now, what makes you different to them? If they can do it, so can you! 'Till this day I still use this phrase and it helps to keep me calm.

Step 2: This should be a bit more easier. Expand your friendship circles. You may like to be alone, but having friends makes your life experiences so much more fun and easier for you to get through. The thought of always having people there to be there at your lowest point should be convincing enough. Some may find that they do not get along with friends in their school but there are so many other opportunities for you to make friends. Join clubs at your local youth centres, apply for summer schools or any trips both inside and outside of school. By believing and loving yourself you will shine in front of others, making it easier to make friends!

Step 3: This is the tricky one, Now, going back to what you may have done in the 1st step, you need to take this further, whether it is showcasing your talents or joining the debate team. Remember that no-body is perfect. Honestly, internalise this because if someone does make a comment, just remember they are only insecure themselves. This may take some time to do this but you will be able to eventually. For all these steps to work you have to be willing to go the extra mile, your friends will be there to support you no matter what :)

If you would like to ask me any personal questions, feel free to message me privately xo

Thanks for reading :)

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  1. Every people will absolutely need someone to talk too :) yeah, I agree we need to expand our friendship circles.

    One personal tip I make to myself is, everyone has their own weakness, so, we don't need to have low self-esteem. But try to overcome our weakness by challenging it :)

    1. I like your tip, it's very true, I will have to do that a bit more too :)
      Thank you for the comment xo

  2. Your totally right you need to expand your freindship circles although it is hard

    1. Yeahh, I found It hard to do so, but if you all have something in common it makes it a lot easier :)

  3. Great post! Love the tips you gave :)

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